Am I Being Selfish?
Sometimes a ‘selfish’ act is the very thing you need to do in order to move forward. If someone is relying on you to make them happy, they’ll make themselves and everyone else miserable until you do. That’s not truly helping them and it’s certainly not helping you. This does not negate the Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would have done unto you.” But anyone who tries to manipulate / shame / abuse you into doing what they want in order for them to be happy is most certainly NOT abiding by this principle either.